What are the rights of parents in Islam?

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Parents rights are the moral and social entitlements of parents towards their children. These are a set of standard attitude and behavior with which children address and treat their parents.

In Islam, parents’ rights are essential and, Allah symbolizes obeying parents as to obeying Himself, of course without worshipping them; This is as mentioned in the Quran (17:23).

It shows that parents deserve the same level of love and humility from their children that Allah is entitled to have by his creation. However, the difference of creator and creation remains there. There are many rights of parents in Islam; today I am covering them from a Quranic perspective.

The Quranic Perspective on Parents Rights and Children responsibilities.

There are seven kinds of parental rights in Islam that are observed from the Holy Qur’an. The list is set by the writer and that according to her research and understanding of the holy scripture of Islam. The list may be incomplete or doesn’t add all the dimensions of parents rights. However, she has given her best efforts.

7 Rights your Parents have on you

Following are the seven rights of parents in Islam.

1. The Right to receive obedience:

The first parental right in our list is The right of obedience with a denotation to a good treatment. Allah orders you to treat your parents well, listen to them and obey their orders. Therefore, it’s your responsibility to obey your parents.

For example, if your mom calls upon you for dinner, you must leave that video game and go; If your dad needs your help in something, you must leave everything else and solve his problem first. If your mom wants to share anything, you must give her a listening ear without looking at your work clock.

Treat your parents like they are your priority, one that tops the list after Allah.

However, you are restricted to obey them when their orders are against Islamic teachings. for example; ascribing partners to Allah and joining un-Islamic gatherings and parties etc. Allah says in the Quran that: “We have commanded people to be good to their parents, but do not obey them if they strive to make you serve, beside Me, anything of which you have no knowledge: you will all return to Me, and I shall inform you of what you have done” (29:8).

2. The Right to receive respect:

Your Parents are entitled to receive respect from you. You must honour them and Speak with them in good words. Sadly, it’s a common practice within societies that children start looking upon their parents with disdain and contempt after they receive a good education or sit around a different class. They feel insecure and shame to introduce their parents to their friends; this shows the level of respect that they hold in for their parents.

The Quran mentions: “We have commanded people to honour their parents” (29:8). The children must never forget their parent’s status. When parents reach old age, they make silly mistakes, and upon it, children shouldn’t raise their voices or roll their eyes upon them. The element of respect and honourable dealing should always be there. Allah says in the Quran: “and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word” (7:22).

3. The Right to receive kindness:

The third important right that parents have to their children include a kind treatment. Parents are the most deserving of your kindness. While Attaining old age, parents dependency level on children increases. Sometimes they work against your rationale and do stuff that annoys you; Allah orders you to change these feelings with the feelings of kindness and deal with them delicately. Same as they ignored your several mistakes in childhood when you were frail. 

Allah says in the Quran: “And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents” (46:15). Another place mentions “Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], uff” (7:22). Even a small word like “uff” is not allowed. The Quran tells you to remain fair and balanced with your parents even if they oppose you in religion. It shows the essence of kindness to your parents in Islam i.eBut if they press you to associate others with Me in My Divinity, those regarding whom you have no knowledge, do not obey them. And yet treat them well in this world” (13:14-15).

4. The Right to be shown humility:

The fourth type of right that parents have on children includes being shown humility. It means the children must realize their inadequacy and nothingness before their parents. It’s a responsibility of a child to become humble before his parents. Allah says in the Quran “And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility” (17:23). It’s such a beautiful expression to order one to humble himself; Lowering your wings before your parents mean choosing to descend while having the ability to fly high. 

When a person reaches adulthood, he becomes stronger both physically and financially while his parents become weak. They depend on him the same way he once depended on them.  Therefore, when such a person achieves success, he is ordered to put away that status before his parents and show humility. It means he may be a rich and famous person out there in the world, but at home, in front of his parents, he has to be no one but their child. 

5. The Right to receive love:

The fifth right that parents have to their children includes being loved and cared. The roles of both mother and father are crucial for a child. The mother feeds, nurtures and teaches the child, while the father protects, earns and manage things for him.  

Allah reminds both of their roles. The Quran mentions: “And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship, and she brings him forth with hardship, and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty (30) months(46:15). First, the Almighty talks about the importance of being kind to the parents, and then He attaches the child with a mother emotional and physical struggle. 

Allah is making humans notice their parents love and compassion towards them and of the mother more than the father. Another similar verse has been mentioned in the Quran as “His mother conceived him in feebleness upon feebleness, and his weaning was in two seasons” (13:14). The children must not overlook the love with which their mothers carried them, gave birth, and their fathers arranged from what they could. They shouldn’t be ungrateful. It’s the right of the parents to be treated with love. 

6. The Right to receive gratitude:

The sixth right of parents have towards their children includes being thanked and appreciated. It’s the responsibility of the child to reflect upon the beauty of his parental relationship and thank his parents. Gratefulness increases love and spread positivity; it grants health to a relation.

However, Allah orders a person to not only thank his parents but also Him as well. It’s Allah who blessed you this life and sent you in the world; all praises and thanks belong to him first. After that, your parents went through hardships to receive you and took care of you, loved you and made you stand on your feet. 

Allah mentions it in the Qur’an: “Give thanks to Me and to your parents; to Me is the Destiny” (13:14). Parents do so much for their children; they must be recognized and thanked.

7. The Right to receive duas:

The seventh right that parents have to their children include being prayed for with a good heart. A child’s dua for his parents is filled with emotions that cannot match any other person’s pray. Therefore, the effect is stronger too. Allah teaches us in the Qur’an to make dua for our parents with the words: “And say: “My Lord! Bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood” (17:24).

Another part of the Qur’an presents a dua: “He says: My Lord! Grant me the power and ability that I may be grateful for Your Favour which You have bestowed upon me and upon my parents, and that I may do righteous good deeds, such as please You, and make my off-spring good. Truly, I have turned to You in repentance, and truly, I am one of the Muslims (submitting to Your Will)” (13:15).

Conclusion:

To conclude, the Holy Quran presents seven parental rights that must be fulfilled by the children. The parents rights in Islam includes; the right to receive obedience; the right to receive respect; the right to receive kindness; the right to receive humility; the right to receive love; the right to receive gratitude; the right to receive duas.

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